5 Steps to Becoming More Optimistic

The more that I think about it, the more it annoys me how some days you could wake up with a smile on your face feeling better than ever and then the next you could cry if someone bumps into you. Am I the only one that happens to? I really hope not…

Maybe I’m just hypersensitive and paranoid and possibly a bit dramatic (my friends will be nodding at that one), but it really bugs me when I can’t figure out how to shake off a bad mood when I don’t even know why I’m in one. I mean, of course we all have those days when you know exactly what is getting you down and it just winds up being “one of those days”, but I really am trying to make a conscious effort from now on to shake off the inexplicable bad days and turn them around before they ruin a perfectly good one.

It’s funny though – I always find when I’m having one of those bad days, literally everything that could go wrong, will go wrong. The day my battery dies on my way home and I forget my purse, is always the day that my subway card runs out of credit and my keys will also be locked into the apartment and I realize the minute a get to the front door (that all happened – there were tears haha!). I know these are all a series of seriously minor unfortunate events, but they could probably all be avoided if I just woke up and told myself that this was going to be a good day!

Here are 5 steps to becoming more optimistic and what I’m going to try to make every day as positive as possible…

  • 1. Try to only focus on the day that you have:

Not to get overly deep all of a sudden, but no amount of time is guaranteed. We’re never going to know if next week will happen for us, so what’s the point in stressing over it? It’s far too easy to get bogged down in the potential things that might happen in the long-term, and then forget about appreciating what we have on a given day.

  • 2. Surround yourself with positive people: 

The people that you spend your time with have a direct impact on how you feel each day, obviously! If you’re spending too much time with that person who is constantly complaining, or can’t take a joke, or even crack a smile, then maybe it’s time to spend more time elsewhere with people who make you laugh, and have your best interests at heart. It’s not always possible if you’re far away from the people who mean the most to you, but picking up the phone and checking in with someone special will do the world of good.

  • 3. Find an outlet for negative energy:

Whether it’s going to the gym, or going for a walk to clear your head, or even literally taking a boxing class to try and channel all of your energy – find something that will do just that!

  • 4. Think about your choices:

If it’s your job that is stressing you out, or the bills that you’re struggling to pay, then take a step back and think about how you got to this point of frustration. Maybe you’ll realize that while the job is stressful, it will be worth it in the long run. And maybe although money could be tight, you’re spending it on other things that bring you happiness that outweighs the stress. Acknowledging why you have made choices, and that you always still have a choice might put your mind at rest.

  • 5. Plan for the bad days: 

You can try and be as positive as possible, but we’re all human, so sometimes we’re allowed to just be cranky, and that’s okay. Try and make those not-so-happy days a little brighter by treating yourself to a nice lunch or by deciding that that night will be spent in bed with Netflix while drowning your sorrows in popcorn. That might not sound to appealing to some people but I thoroughly enjoy those evenings of relaxation! 🙂

So anyway, I hope these little steps might help at least one person. At the end of the day, these are just little solutions to try and turn a bad day into a good one!

Have a great weekend!

Niamh x



  1. Lovely post Niamh. It’s always nice to be reminded to look at the bigger picture, things get so busy that sometimes it’s easily forgotten.

    Ciara ♥

    • cinnamonsoul Reply

      Thanks for the lovely comment Ciara, so glad that you liked it! x

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